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    Reconnecting to the Life Force (Part 1)

    This is a brilliant essay by Charles Eisenstein on what really lies beneath the adrenal fatigue epidemic.  


    You have probably met amazing people who are blessed with a seemingly endless supply of energy. Are they just lucky? Are you cursed, by chance, with a bad body or unlucky circumstances, weak adrenals or overwhelming responsibilities? No.

    On some level you realize you are not a victim of your body or your life. You are its creator. A limitless supply of energy lies within you. What might be blocking it?

    To discover the hidden message behind stress and adrenal fatigue, let’s start by pondering what the adrenal gland is actually for.

    In the simplest terms, the job of the adrenal glands is to put us into action. The hormones they produce activate the body and focus the mind, readying us to act, to create, to express, to engage. When the adrenal glands are quiet, such as in relaxation, laughter, or play, then we are in a different state of being. We might describe it as receptive, passive, open, or going with the flow.

    These two states include many other body systems as well, most notably the sympathetic and parasympathetic branches of the central nervous system. Both exist in the body, and we must recognize both as tools for the body to express its wisdom and enact a sacred purpose.

    We are here on earth both to go with the flow and to actively create and mold reality to our design. We embody a yin and a yang, and in health, the relaxed yin state balances the adrenal yang state.

    In Traditional Chinese Medicine, the adrenal glands are part of the kidney system. Interestingly, TCM identifies the Kidney as the repository of the jing, our life force, our aliveness, our creative power, our essence. The jing is what drives us to express our being in this material world. It is spirit materialized.

    Now, imagine what happens if some important part of your life is not a true expression of your being. It could be your occupation, your relationship, or any area that you are trying to make work. Trying is the key word here. Trying to make it work. Trying to carry on when you don’t really want to. Trying hard to pull that life energy out of your Kidney.

    The adrenal glands, being wise, are not going to want to respond. They are going to be reluctant to offer up their essence of life. They know, “This is not what it’s for.” You say, “Why is it so hard to get up in the morning?” and the adrenals say, “We don’t want to get up for that!”

    Thinking mechanistically, we suppose that we can’t get up because our adrenal glands are tired. Actually the reverse it true. Our adrenals are tired because we don’t want to get up.

    Are you protesting, “No, I do want to get up! I have so much to do. I want to get up, but I can’t”? The body never lies. Deep unconscious desires are rising to the surface.

    Usually we don’t take no for an answer when our adrenal glands rebel. If they are reluctant to offer their energy, well, we’ll force them to. We can force them chemically, for example with coffee. We can also use mental force to stimulate our adrenals. We set up a system of internal rewards and punishments, and use it to whip our adrenals into action. In other words, we create stress. Gotta do this, gotta do that. I’d better, I have to, I shouldn’t, I should. A constant cloud of threat hangs over life.

    We can never rest at peace.

    If threat is the negative component of stress, then the positive component is desire. It is desire which is meant to mobilize the life force contained in the adrenals. In the rush and press of modern life, rarely do we do something purely for the love of doing it. So we create incentives to “get motivated”. We subject ourselves to a relentless barrage of threats and incentives to make ourselves do things we would otherwise not do.

    Eventually, when we continue to jerk the life force out of the reluctant adrenals, they become exhausted. Because even though we can artificially stimulate them to produce, their internal resources are limited. The adrenal glands don’t produce life energy from nothing. They are transformational conduits for a flow of creative life energy through us.

    On one level, they require minerals and other chemical precursors to make hormones. On an energetic level they need to be plugged in to the source of creative life energy. Even if you take all the right minerals and glandular extracts, they won’t work if the connection to the source of life energy is blocked. You’ll try one promising solution after another, and you’ll only get marginal, temporary improvements.

    Why is adrenal fatigue epidemic in our time? It reflects the evolution of human consciousness. What was once an acceptable life is no longer acceptable. The kinds of jobs and relationships that were once considered normal are incompatible with who we are becoming. Good enough is no longer good enough. We are literally tired of the old way of being.

    Exhaustion is not just about your adrenals. Your adrenal glands are refusing to comply with life as it has been. Whether you agree or not, they are launching you into a new stage of life. An incredible journey is ahead of you.


    Click here to access Part 2 ‘Opening the Flow of your Life Force’. 

    charles2Charles Eisenstein spent most of his 20s in Tawian, educating himself broadly in Eastern spiritual traditions, while voraciously reading books on health, nutrition, globalization, physics, and biology. He entered into what was to be a long period of intensifying crisis that started when his professional work became intolerable.

    The next five years were much like a birthing process. The old world dissolved, and the contractions birthing him into the new, took the form of a collapse of all that he once held onto. Crises in health, marriage, and money forced him to let go of a “life under control”. In his helplessness, he accepted help, discovering a generous universe that has always met his needs, somehow, in unexpected ways. Friends and strangers from all over the world, write to tell him how his books have affected them; sustaining his faith and nourishing his passion for his work.

    Learn more about Charles and what he offers here: http://charleseisenstein.net/

    *He also offers 2 wonderful adrenal nourishing meditations and a ‘talk’ that you can get access to here by donation.

    Birthing My Business as a Second Child

    This article comes from a lovely client of mine Ashley Donovan. She sent me a note one morning about the insights that were revealed to her in a dream about her relationship to her business. I asked her if she would consider writing an article about it to help other mama’s conceptualize that just as we can expand our energy and love for a second child, we can give birth to our business personified in this way.

    In Ashley’s own words…….

    I moved to Dallas back in August. The only way I know how to describe what I felt was that something had ‘cracked’ open inside of me. It wasn’t until the new moon that I connected this to my business.

    AshleyI had a dream about two beautiful babies. One was crying and being held and soothed but the second was not acknowledged at all. The second baby still looked so peaceful. I wondered ‘how can that be?’ My daughter, Cali, was almost never that peaceful unless in someone’s arms. I woke up and did some journaling.

    I am just learning about the moon cycles but I knew that this was a very natural time for reflection. I realized that I have been pregnant (not literally folks!) for the last seven and a half months. I have some theories about my dream. I’m not sure what the exact translation is. I do know my dream has opened my eyes to seeing my business as my second child.

    My transition into being an entrepreneur has not been an easy one. I have had many ups and downs. About a million times I would think ‘I can’t do this’. I have been so frightened it was as if I were a scared mouse in a cage unable to take any action at all.

    I’ve also had tremendously hot energy. Feeling so on ‘it’ and fully tapped into being a coach.

    During reflection I noticed that all of this was so eerily similar to pregnancy. Days where I didn’t think I was going to be a good mother, days where I wasn’t sure if the baby would be healthy and days where I was so excited I just couldn’t contain myself and let’s not forget the days I was just so eager to meet my little bean!!! When someone is ‘in the thick of it’ it can be difficult to see how much work is being done even when it seems like nothing is being done at all.

    I feel this drive to lead an authentic life so that I can fully lead others on their authentic path. That is not something I take lightly (neither was mothering) and so I knew (much like when I was pregnant) that if I was going to be a coach (or mother) I was going to have to be the best damn role model I could be (ME). Even when I am working on myself and nothing for my business I have to remain confident that one will feed into the other.

    So much is the same in pregnancy. That baby is growing whether you think about it or not. Eating fantastic food, keeping the stress low and loving it up are all a part of that baby’s vitality.

    I’ve had to feel through some very old wounds. I’ve had to cry and feel scared and sad and alone. It wasn’t easy, it wasn’t always fun, but the fruits of my labor will only be good ones. I know because when I was pregnant I had many of the same experiences. I never gave up because there was not a doubt in my mind that my daughter was supposed to be on this earth.

    Similarly, there is not a doubt in my mind that my business is meant to be. I am ready for birth. I am ready to transition into my role as health coach and no longer as student and apprentice! While I will always and continually be learning and growing (as with motherhood) I am ready to meet and honor my second child, my business.

    Ashley2Ashley Donovan is known as the ‘self love nutritionist’. Her back round in Psychology and Doula care, informs her work with women during transition points in their lives. Ashley is a passionate mama who believes that pregnancy is a special window of inspiration to finally care for ourselves in the way that we have always wanted to (and know we really should). Ashley not only loves helping mama’s take their health and wellness into their own hands (by connecting us to our true heart’s desire), but she also empowers women to make authentic birth, parenting and life choices that feel ‘just right’ (body & soul).  You can connect with Ashley at her website  www.happymindhealthybody.com to learn more about the coaching and healing services she offers.


    Mompreneurs Need Momentum (not balance)

    Balance is BSMost moms worry that they won’t have the time to do the work of running a  business and the  truth is that yes the start up of a new business is more time consuming than being in the flow of an already established business. That is why it is so crucial for moms to do exactly the right things to start their business and avoid spending time doing tasks that are not income generating (if your not making money you don’t have a business, you have a hobby).

    One of the most important things to understand when starting your own business as a holistic mom is that you can’t do it in a balanced way (multi tasking  doesn’t work when you need momentum).

    Our culture loves to promote balance , but balance is simply a maintenance strategy and does not have the movement that is necessary to get a business off the ground.

    What actually works is to create focused times where you can get momentum. That way when you are with your family, you are really with them. When you are with your business, you ‘get shit done’ because you have the speed of momentum and the space to focus.

    Moms often tell me they don’t have time….and while that feels true, it is actually the attitude of time poverty that keeps us trying to do it all at once and feeling like we are on a hamster wheel of “having to” instead of  ”wanting to”- we always have time for what we are committed to ….when we make time for ourselves, we find more time… we always find what we are looking for.

    So the next time you use the excuse “I don’t have time”, stop and ask yourself what you are truly committed to….spend your time there, let go of the need to control your time and allow time to show you where it is- and let the rest take care of itself!

    One thing that I use and help my clients with is establishing rhythms instead of living by a schedule and one of the ways that I do that is by living in tune with the moon- what we come to discover by syncing with the moon, is that everything has a season- and that makes it easier to let go of the feeling of having to do it all now.

    It is really about cultivating a new relationship with time and taking a stand to make time for you.

    How might you need to be unreasonable to get focused time set aside to ensure that you get the momentum you need to make your dreams a reality?

    Motherhood: The catalyst for your calling.

    Becoming a mother changes how we view the world.

    With our sweet little bundle arrived, it can suddenly feel urgent to create a brand new world for our children to live into. Seemingly strange, motherhood simultaneously kicks our drive to make a difference into high gear, while at the same time putting our foot on the brake -with the round the clock responsibilities of motherhood.

    http://www.dreamstime.com/royalty-free-stock-photo-pregnant-image6237735While both of my children are now in school I must admit that throughout my 10 years as a stay at home mom, whilst fully engaged with my passions -I often felt perplexed by my seemingly contradictory urges to fully embody my role as a nurturer and at the same time fulfill my dreams, passions and purpose as a woman.

    It was a conflicted time for me as I lived with the story that my work compromised my mothering and that my mothering compromised my work. I often felt like I wasn’t doing a very good job of anything. Unable to give myself fully to either and in many ways living only to a fraction of my capacity.


    But a story is all that it was. A collective pattern and mindset (one that I believe is part of the collective feminine pain body) bullying us into believing that we can’t have it all (and shouldn’t). Battering us into believing that we are required to give our selfhood over to motherhood and simply put our lives on hold- if we are to be a good mother.

    It’s bruising and it’s a lie.

    I believe the truth is that we are called as mothers to gather resources and do whatever it takes to conjure up more energy (than we’ve ever had) and to give more fully of our whole selves. We are called to model living fully self expressed in the truth of who we are, so that our children can naturally and easily do it too.

    It is a truth that my husband gently reminds me of, when I feel guilty for swinging too far from a lifestyle that I personally feel is in the best interests of my family- and yes, of course there are seasons like that when you dare to defy the traditional role of a mother- you’ll feel like a shit mom, and sometimes you’ll be one- despite your best intentions you are only human and we are all learning as we go.

    While it isn’t always easy, it is worth figuring out how to live harmoniously and in consensus with both our soul’s drive to create and our children’s inherent needs. I believe that we are the ones who will recreate the story and create a new blueprint for motherhood.

    We are finding our way….

    Feelings and urges are meant to be expressed, not suppressed (the latter of which of course which only adds fuel to the fire of the passions we are trying to put out or starve).

    By virtue of having a desire, our soul is speaking to us of a yet unmet need. You can’t argue with a feeling, it just is. It must be felt, acknowledged, released or expressed. Either way, it is coming out- whether destructive or creative. We get to decide -if we choose to look at it.

    And you can’t argue with reality either. If it is universal that women give birth to creative power, while also giving birth to a child (many women can attest that this heightened creativity begins as early as pregnancy), then could it be that we are wired this way for good reason?

    Who better than a mother high on love hormones to recreate the world?

    Is it possible that it is within the divine plan, that a strong desire to manifest is also birthed inside a woman as she becomes a mother? Could our creative urges be divinely inspired?

    With all of my being, I believe that childbirth is a woman’s vision quest and that not only are we downloaded with a  blueprint for how we are to parent, but that we are also given a vision for birthing a new humanity through mothering.

    This inner drive need not be misconstrued as a force that calls us away from conscious mothering, but rather acknowledged as one that calls us more fully into mothering with intention and living our divine life purpose (of which motherhood is part of the practice).

    It is all how you look at it.

    In the famous words of Wayne Dyer, “when you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change”.

    How would you live differently if you thought of motherhood as the catalyst for your calling?